Episode #152: Personalizing a New Build

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Present Notes

Greatest issues Elsie did in her Nineties house:

-Including a lot of wallpaper

-Including classic, antiques, previous lighting fixtures, and eBay finds 

-Eradicating signature Nineties options (a lot of carpet, overkill of can lights)

-We point out Episode #42: Oops, I’m Shifting Once more and Episode #107: Low-cost Previous Homes

Elsie’s wallpaper sources:

-Right here’s a photograph of the rainbow bookshelves in Elsie’s earlier house:

-Elsie’s fortune cookie body

-Try Elsie’s favourite Etsy artist, Janet Hill

-In case you have pets, we suggest Folex Immediate Carpet Spot Remover

-Right here is the mansion on the seashore picture in Goldie’s room.

–These are the frames that flip up for art work which can be in Elsie’s kitchen. You can even make your individual utilizing this DIY!

-Try the weblog submit The place to Purchase Cute & Reasonably priced Wall Artwork On-line

-Learn the weblog submit Begin an Artwork Assortment

deal with a friendship break-up in your 30s

-Make area for what’s coming subsequent.

-Do not forget that some friendships come and go in numerous seasons of your life.

Elsie’s household meals to make FAST: 

Emma’s household meals to make FAST: 

Episode 152 Transcript

Elsie: You’re listening to the A Stunning Mess podcast. I just lately completed renovations on our Nineties house. This week, I’m sharing all one of the best renovations that we did to provide it character and persona. We’re additionally chatting about friendship challenges in our thirties and our favourite fast household meals. So we had one of the best week collectively.

Spending Time Collectively

Emma: Sure. Sure. Tomorrow I’ll have been right here a complete week and there was someday we went to spend time with Trey’s sister as a result of she additionally lives close to Nashville in order that was actually enjoyable. However yeah, I’ve simply been up in your own home for per week. The cousins have been enjoying collectively simply child Oscar, child Oscar, child Oscar. 

Elsie: It’s so cute. Yeah. They’re just about simply following him round the home 24 hours a day and ensuring he doesn’t put issues in his mouth and it was magical. We had a variety of enjoyable and I’m actually grateful for this, a complete week is a very long time so it was good. 

Elsie’s Home Story

Emma: Yeah. It was very enjoyable. So that you completed your renovation. So let’s examine in on the home. So when did you purchase this home? 

Elsie: Okay, so I’m so enthusiastic about this episode as a result of it’s like renovation replace time and we completed a bunch of stuff whereas we had been on our break this summer season and I didn’t even put most of it on Instagram so it’s like shock, shock, bing, bing, bing should you care about renovations. Okay. So we purchased the home two years in the past. It was throughout 2020. It was the tip of 2020. There’s a complete episode about this again up to now. It’s referred to as Oops, I’m Shifting Once more. 

Emma: Nice title. 

Elsie: I do suppose it’s among the best titles we’ve ever had and likewise What to Count on When Emma’s anticipating. I used to be additionally actually happy with that one anyhow. Okay. So we moved right here and the rationale why, within the quick model, is as a result of we had simply purchased a home proper earlier than the pandemic began and it was a lot too small for our household, however we had been planning to construct onto it and do all these items. Then as soon as that began, we felt like that was not a good selection anymore and never one thing we may deal with. So one evening I used to be simply crying and I used to be like, let’s simply transfer to an even bigger home. My husband was like, positively not. Then per week later, it’s all the time per week later or a month later he was like, okay, nice let’s simply transfer. 

Emma: You gotta give folks time to consider issues. 

Elsie: So yeah, we discovered this home and we solely checked out two homes. It was within the tremendous low stock time. There’s solely two homes that match our specs in any respect. We had been fairly certain we had been gonna get the opposite one. This home was like, it was slightly overwhelming. It was slightly bit greater than we wished or wanted. It was simply type of like ton of tile, a ton of beige carpet, simply a variety of rooms and a variety of partitions that had been utterly clean. Prefer it was a Nineties new construct that by no means from what I can inform, acquired up to date in any approach on the within, nevertheless it had a pool and it was my quarantine dream so we ended up shifting right here. I’ll say in hindsight now that it has been greater than two years, I discovered a lot, this was most likely my largest studying expertise in a home ever. So for that, I’m so grateful. However for anybody who is considering shopping for a brand new construct after which simply reworking it to appear to be an previous home, I do wanna warn you that it’s more durable than you suppose and costly, and likewise simply tedious. Like, we just about did nothing however renovate this entire two years and my husband is over it. We needed to come to a stopping level in order that’s the place we are actually. 

Emma: So that you’re there?

Elsie: We’re at that stopping level. 

Emma: You’re on the end line. I guess it feels good. 

Elsie: I did make some compromises and I didn’t end every little thing I assumed I might. I simply determined to not on some issues. 

Emma: Properly, life’s stuffed with compromises. 

Elsie: Sure. Life is stuffed with compromises and I feel pivoting on your private home renovation is type of important. 

Emma: You gotta hold it unfastened as a result of it’s a giant mission. I really feel like a very small mission can go in keeping with spec, however like large ones, you type of should have that wiggle room. Anyway, so perhaps let’s discuss in regards to the high 5 issues or one thing alongside these traces that you simply did to the home that you simply really feel like made it, that previous home really feel to you and comfortable and all of the issues that you simply wished that you simply didn’t have it first.

Elsie: Okay. Once we first purchased the home, the entire backside degree was massive beige tile and it was very like echo-y. There was not one single curtain in the complete home so it felt very, similar to undressed. Like simply very bare. If you should use that phrase a few home after which the upstairs was fully carpeted and the footprint is similar. So it’s like half of the home was simply beige carpet. One of many first issues that I wished to speak about is what we took away from the home to make it look much less nineties earlier than I speak about all of the issues that I added to make it go together with my private aesthetic as a result of you can also make it any aesthetic, clearly. I wished, like I really like previous homes, I wished an previous home and it wasn’t within the playing cards for us on this space. So I made a decision to create one, which was a terrific inventive problem. So the primary one is that I removed nearly all of the carpet. I say nearly as a result of we did resolve to maintain the carpet in our film room as a result of it was a really, what do you name it? Low pile when it’s like not very fluffy. 

Emma: That sounds proper. 

Elsie: Extra like a carpet you’d see in an workplace constructing and fewer like a carpet you’d see in a home from the nineties if that is smart. I’m not a carpet knowledgeable, however we saved it in that one room as a result of my husband’s, he’s in music and stuff and he wished it to have like a sure sound. So it was like a sound issue factor. Actually, our canine, we had an aged canine final yr who handed and he or she had some loopy accidents in there on the carpet, which is beige or white and it’s the freaking Folex. Have you ever heard bloggers ever speak about Folex, the spray? It’s like a miracle. 

Emma: Yeah. We used to make use of it. We had an aged pug too earlier than he handed. He had a variety of accidents.

Elsie: I can’t consider how a lot better it’s than some other spray I’ve ever tried. So positively should you’re an individual with carpet in your own home, get that Folex. It truly is de facto legit. So once we first moved in, we just about instantly, I feel it was like a month after we moved in, we booked the flooring for the upstairs. So that they took all of the carpet out and we went to Missouri for per week or so and so they put in wooden flooring. I’ll say that I feel flooring are one of many simpler issues you are able to do to your own home. Do you agree with that? 

Emma: I feel it is determined by who you’re working with as a result of some folks could possibly be actually sluggish. 

Elsie: They’re excessive affect and prefer it’s costly, nevertheless it’s not soul-crushing like some tasks are. I really feel prefer it makes simply such a top quality distinction. I imply, most individuals favor wooden flooring. I do know somebody’s like no. 

Emma: Yeah, I feel most individuals do. Yeah, I feel so. I imply, it is determined by the area, however yeah. Like some folks would possibly need them in bedrooms. I imply, you saved some within the film room you’re saying so I feel there’s some areas, however usually, yeah. I feel folks, like wooden flooring.

Carpet and Can Lights

Elsie: I did get to expertise what it was prefer to have the carpet all over the place and should you find it irresistible, like, I really like that for you, however I wouldn’t need it. It was within the halls and every little thing so it was actually type of all over the place. Anyway, so yeah, we added wooden to the entire upstairs. So we had an enormous quantity of canned lights, like recess lighting, just like the flat lighting the place it seems like slightly can caught up in your ceiling. I do know folks name it by completely different names. So we had like an enormous, big, big quantity. I’ve gotten probably the most conflicting recommendation and opinions from Instagram and from even my pals about whether or not or not it is best to have them in any respect, or it is best to have a standard quantity, like a small quantity of them, perhaps a minimal quantity, after which a considerable amount of them. So I feel you simply have to seek out the place you match on that spectrum. For me, if I used to be constructing a house from scratch, I can confidently say I might go zero. It’s simply not my type of lighting and I simply favor different lighting. 

Emma: I can’t wait so that you can see what number of can lights we put in our home that we’re renovating proper now. It’s greater than zero.

Elsie: Okay. However I’ll say for this home, I used to be attempting to renovate it, for myself design sensible, however with a resale mindset with regards to sensible, useful issues. Which I feel is all the time good. Should you can, only a steadiness. So I did hold some, we minimized them. 

Emma: You probably did have an extreme quantity. It was type of wild. 

Elsie: I’ll present an image within the present notes for anybody who doesn’t consider me, however even in every bed room, there can be six to 9 can lights in a bed room that additionally has a chandelier. Now we’ve got 4 in every bed room. So, that’s type of what I’m saying after I say we decrease them. If I used to be constructing from scratch, I like that previous homes don’t have them, so I most likely would keep away or keep minimal. Then aside from that, we did do away with a number of the beige tile within the downstairs and we changed a few of it with wooden, which was a very, actually onerous determination between me and my husband. He felt that the tile was like this pool pleasant factor and I felt that wooden can be simply as pool pleasant should you wipe up the water, which we all the time freaking would. So we type of simply went round about it for some time, however once we put down the wooden, which was type of like, I’d say three-fourths of the downstairs. He does actually prefer it now and he feels actually good in regards to the determination now. So I feel it gave the house a a lot better really feel. So the following factor I wanna speak about are the bookshelves. 


Emma: So these are stuff you added? Now we’ve moved on to stuff you’re including into the home. 

Elsie: Sure. I’m gonna speak about bookshelves. I’m gonna speak about wallpaper and I’m gonna speak about classic stuff and artwork. In order that’s the desk of contents for what’s to come back. So once we first noticed this house, there’s so many clean partitions. I knew that I wished to place a variety of bookshelves as a result of in our earlier house, you guys would possibly bear in mind the rainbow bookshelf, I’ll put an image within the present notes. It was my first floor-to-ceiling bookshelf, and I beloved it. It took a clean wall in a room that wasn’t getting a variety of like play. It was simply type of a boring wall, by no means acquired in a photograph ever. Then impulsively it was just like the bell of a ball. It simply was so particular. It was on the duvet once we did the dad and mom’ journal cowl. It was utilized in a variety of photographs. I do know it’s in Alyssa’s guide. I do know it’s within the domino guide. Rainbow bookshelves modified my life and I truly acquired into books just lately. So once we moved right here, I had simply watched Knives Out. I’ve a quota to fill that I’ve to say Knives Out in each episode of our podcast.

Emma: We’re apparently tremendous followers. 

Elsie: So I used to be like, what number of bookshelves and likewise fireplaces can I match on this house? So I made a decision rather a lot. So we added them on this room we’re sitting proper now’s Jeremy’s studio, which is the dimensions of, I might say a very good measurement bed room. It’s type of a squarish room although. It’s not lengthy, it’s sq.. He has bookshelves that go all the way in which round, which we did that as a result of on this house we didn’t do any soundproofing. However we found that books might be like a type of a sound diffuser and sound actually good. Hopefully, you’re listening to this podcast and usually are not like, oh, it sounds horrible, truly. So they give the impression of being cool. It sounds good. It’s actually cozy. We’d positively do that once more. And we’d positively suggest it to anybody who desires to do a finances music studio as a result of it really works properly. Then the following one we did was the large inexperienced cabinets in our front room. We determined to place a floor-to-ceiling bookshelf in the lounge as type of like an accent wall. There’s a hearth within the middle after which to 1 aspect, you’ll see the house theater room, after which to the opposite aspect is a large bookshelf. It’s so large which you could’t go to the highest with out, I imply, I just about simply climb up on just like the countertop a part of it each time however you would want a ladder should you wished to succeed in the highest. That one, I really feel prefer it modified the room perhaps greater than any of the opposite renovations. I’m simply gonna put the earlier than and afters, I assume, within the present, it’s a must to see it to consider it. Then the final bookshelf state of affairs that we did is I noticed this one image on Pinterest of a bookshelf eating room and it was like a hearth lit and it may by no means exit, an unquenchable burning want for a library eating room. 

Emma: I find it irresistible. 

Library Eating Room

Elsie: So we determined to do the library eating room and we had already added this arch, which is so unhappy as a result of it was the dimensions was mistaken as a result of the arch was approach larger than the doorways, by the point we put within the doorways and stuff and I used to be like, oh no, that’s not gonna work anymore. It simply all seems bizarre. Our eating room desk seems like dollhouse furnishings once we first put it up, like I’m telling you this scale points had been bizarre. So I used to be slightly bit nervous about dropping area as a result of when constructing out the bookshelves on three partitions, we did lose about a few ft from all sides and in order that was slightly bit like, is it value it? However I can say now, like 1000000% I might do it once more. We additionally added slightly fake hearth and a few sconces across the bookshelves, that are nice lighting everytime you need one thing type of dim, and bookshelves with cupboards beneath. So what I retailer there’s like my classic purchasing stuff. So it’s like a spot the place I can accumulate much more random stuff, which makes me so blissful. So the library eating room was positively, I feel a turning level for our home as a result of we used a classic hearth mantle that we discovered on the flea market after which type of constructed, it was type of like Frankenstein hearth as a result of we acquired one piece of it, however then they needed to construct the remainder to match. By the point it was carried out, I might say it’s my favourite room, and the renovation I’m probably the most happy with as a result of it had so many doubters and Jeremy tried to speak me out of it actually, actually onerous as a result of I get it, like, why do you wanna spend a lot cash on bookshelves in a eating room? It doesn’t completely make sense, however for this home, for this eating room, it similar to wanted one thing to make it really feel cozy and so it labored. 


Emma: Let’s speak about wallpaper. I’d say that’s an enormous factor in your own home. If anybody who’s ever walked via it, like I’ve, there’s similar to a lot of completely different wallpapers. A few of it’s like simply on the partitions or half the wall. There’s a variety of areas the place it’s on the ceiling which is a enjoyable function. So how do you decide wallpaper? What’s your cope with wallpaper, man? 

Elsie: For this home, I picked nearly solely conventional wallpaper. The primary wallpaper that I acquired actually impressed by is the one in my workplace and it’s a Hugo and West wallpaper. I picked it as a result of it like, had like this little little bit of Gucci feeling about it so I’ll hyperlink within the present notes all of the wallpapers with the photographs. So you possibly can see what they appear to be as a result of um, remembering all of the manufacturers and stuff off the highest of my head isn’t simple. I stayed with principally conventional floral wallpaper, however all of them really feel actually completely different. They’re not all the identical. After which we’ve got one which we haven’t actually proven but. There’s slightly like type of like touchdown room on the high of our stairs and it connects to our hallway and our major bed room and the child’s secret library. And in that room, we did this darkish inexperienced, I feel Morris and Co wallpaper and it’s on the ceiling too. I name it my vampire room as a result of it truly is so moody. I’ve by no means carried out a room this moody earlier than.

Emma: It’s very moody. I don’t know. I heard you say vampire room and I used to be like in search of like bats within the wallpaper or one thing or like eyeballs or one thing as a result of it doesn’t actually really feel spooky. It simply feels very wealthy, like velvet, what I imply? 

Elsie: That’s good. After which we lastly did the entryway ceiling, which was kinda like a, I imply it’s a giant look. I feel it turned out actually cool. It’s positively like, most likely like the most important assertion that we did in the home.

Emma: The factor I observed rather a lot with that space, the entryway is the wallpaper on the ceiling seems stunning, nevertheless it additionally makes that chandelier stand out extra. I really feel like if it was a white ceiling, I wouldn’t discover the chandelier as a lot, or it wouldn’t be as seen and it’s actually fairly chandelier. So I don’t know. I used to be like, oh, I by no means actually considered it, however yeah, in the identical approach, like a painted ceiling would try this. I really feel just like the wallpaper does it, nevertheless it additionally type of felt like an outfit the place you see somebody who has some type of cool pants on and a really patterned shirt. And also you’re like, oh, I wouldn’t put that collectively, nevertheless it seems wonderful. It seems type of like that. 

Elsie: Thanks. I’m actually enthusiastic about that. I feel it turned out actually cool and that exact sample I’ve, like had this like obsession with it for thus lengthy and I’ve all the time wished to make use of it. And I actually love the way it turned out. Within the powder rest room, we did a paneling wall that goes up about three-fourths of the way in which, after which we left the highest half and it’s an irregular ceiling. So it’s like a ceiling with three partitions after which a sloped wall if that is smart. Like three straight elements and a sloped half. So it type of wanted like there’s sure patterns that make irregular formed rooms, like actually forgiving. That’s what I utilized in my workplace as properly. They work rather well for like nineties structure. It’s kinda bizarre. You then simply see the wallpaper and also you don’t see anymore, the like bizarre angles. So yeah, I used a type of patterns and I really like the way it turned out. I used to be like, very pleased with it and it’s type of like, I really feel prefer it’s slightly extra of a coastal vibe than a number of the different rooms.

Emma: Your lighting fixtures are.

Mild Fixtures

Elsie: Yeah. We used the Stray Canine Designs lighting fixtures, after which I used a ratan wanting shade. Then similar to with the white beat board and stuff, it simply type of appears like, I don’t know, very reverse. I ought to make a video. Probably the most reverse of the way it was once we first moved in as a result of that room was very dungeon and darkish.

Emma: Sure. I used to hate that loo plus it’s such excessive ceilings in there and it’s like this lengthy rectangle so it was simply actually like a bizarre room. And now I really feel like the place you probably did the like three-fourths beat board after which the wallpaper, it simply breaks it up visually. It type of additionally in a bizarre approach, made the ceiling really feel slightly bit decrease, however in a great way. 

Elsie: Thanks. 

Emma: So it’s very nice. 


Elsie: Ought to we discuss in regards to the fireplaces?

Emma: Sure. What number of fireplaces do you’ve and what number of of them are actual and what number of of them are faux?

Elsie: Okay. So once we moved in the home had one hearth in the lounge that’s actual, and it nonetheless has that one hearth in the lounge that’s actual however we did should redo it as a result of it acquired destroyed after they had been demoing the tile. Which I wasn’t planning on doing. It turned out to be stunning, however so costly. Then I added just a few fake fireplaces. And I nonetheless would add extra if I had the possibility to be sincere as a result of they make me so blissful. So we added one in our bed room. So our bed room simply particularly had a variety of unused area and we knew we didn’t want extra furnishings. It wasn’t the furnishings. It was simply type of like, and there was scale points. 

Emma: It’s a wild bed room. I’ve by no means seen a bed room that large.

Elsie: And it’s slightly bit sq.. 

Emma: So it makes it like, there’s type of no motive, I really feel like there’s occasions you see a bed room and it’s large and it’s like, oh, properly, it’s type of related. It Nearly has a hallway that’s main someplace, however yours is rather like a giant empty field with tremendous excessive ceilings and there’s simply nothing occurring in there. 

Elsie: I’ve seen a variety of bedrooms the place you’ve room for like a settee and a espresso desk and a TV and whoa, whoa, whoa. However this room doesn’t even have room for any extra furnishings, however it’s large. So we added a TV and we may put chairs there. We simply favor to not as a result of we’re not sitting there however you may simply have chairs. We’ve put them there generally after which it has a dresser after which, the mattress and the bedside tables, however then there was simply this entire different wall. So we determined to have a pretend hearth. And I discovered this arts and crafts hearth on Pinterest that I similar to fell in love with and so we similar to emulated it precisely. So it’s a classic hearth and so they made it look, I might say fairly near the actual factor. We used the type of tile the place it’s like has slightly little bit of shade variation so it’s like a number of the items are white and a number of the items are like slightly bit grey and slightly bit beige, however that was most likely I feel your best option for the bed room. After which aside from that, we paneled the ceiling, which actually helped the sensation of the room to simply really feel extra cozy. Like a paneled ceiling. I came upon after I first confirmed Ting, what I wanna do the home he’s like, you can not panel this many ceilings. It’s like too costly and also you don’t want it. He’s like decide three. So we picked, however up to now we’ve solely carried out one, however we thought perhaps we would do it within the kitchen. After which we picked the bed room as a result of the bed room similar to the ceiling is type of like a press release, nevertheless it didn’t look good. So it seems so good now it’s most likely my favourite ceiling on the earth. Sure. Oh my God. I’m so excited now to love take all as a result of it will inspire me to love take all my footage.

Emma: I do know it’s a must to present it as a result of folks might be like, present me it. 



Elsie: Sure. Okay. So the following factor I wanna speak about is like including classic antiques, previous lighting fixtures, eBay finds, and stuff like that.

Classic Particulars, Art work, and Extra

Emma: So I consider this as just like the small stuff. , like should you had been to maneuver, you’d take these items with you. I assume you may take a pretend hearth relying if it’s like actually built-in or not, however like bookshelves, issues like that you simply’re not taking that with you. Wallpaper, you’re not taking that with you. 

Elsie: Our fireplaces are positively completely fastened.

Emma: Yeah. Yours are like in place. 

Elsie: Yeah, the sunshine, I imply, I wouldn’t take a lightweight fixture, however you may all the time swap should you wished to. The vintage gentle fixture I discovered that we used is within the children’ library and it’s a cathedral chandelier. Is that what it’s referred to as after they do the type of crazy factor on the backside?

Emma: I consider it as a Titanic chandelier myself, , the film Titanic 

Elsie: Titanic chandelier . Yeah, that’s a very good description. It’s so sparkly. The solar hits it each evening at a sure time. It’s simply so magical. If I may do my entire home in classic lighting fixtures, I might like to, however I feel., I imply, they’re such a giant time dedication to love supply them, after which they’re not returnable and there’s a variety of threat related to them. Generally it’s a must to get them rewired. So I feel selecting a pair for me was like I acquired the texture of it with out doing all of them and going too deep in.

Emma: Yeah. Ting was like decide three. 

Elsie: I feel that for my Enneagram seven, the decide three is nice whenever you are available in with this big listing, that’s a very good technique. Yeah, I positively suppose I’ve purchased probably the most eBay stuff of my entire life since we moved right here as a result of I’m like amassing these little brass bugs. Sure. There’s some like ladybugs and frogs and I did get so impressed by Knives Out. I simply wished to have like, simply that like each room appears like a priceless assortment. Nevertheless it’s like priceless since you may by no means discover it once more. You might by no means replicate it once more. Anybody can purchase a chair from Serena and Lily, which is wonderful, however not anybody can purchase this sure, . Should you take the time to discover a velvet chair on eBay, then it’s like certainly one of a form or primarily. 

Emma: Yeah. Or discovering it the place it similar to suits your area completely. Like you’ve one little brass butterfly factor on the finish of the bookshelf that similar to suits the area completely or no matter. In order that, after which I additionally simply suppose there’s a sense of like, oh, this has been not simply thoughtfully curated, however like, it takes time to love put collectively issues like that. Everytime you have a look at a catalog, that’s like all one model. The rooms don’t look curated in that approach as a result of it’s all one model’s furnishings and so they truly don’t wanna put a bunch of bizarre stuff in there as a result of then it could most likely pull focus. They need you to give attention to simply their objects and whenever you stroll right into a home like that, it’s actually tidy however I feel your own home feels very reverse of that. It’s like, , issues come from throughout and from a variety of completely different eras and simply have a vibe. It’s acquired a vibe. 

Elsie: Thanks. That’s the finest praise. I feel that’s one thing that you are able to do on any finances as a result of we did begin thrifting the primary day I acquired my driver’s license and the stuff that we’d discover thrifting again then within the nineties, it’s simply as cool because the stuff that now I spend approach an excessive amount of cash on eBay shopping for. So I feel should you’re prepared to place within the hours, and there’s all of the people who find themselves obsessive about Fb market, property gross sales, like all of the issues. I feel I’ve stated that like one million occasions on this podcast, however I do suppose it’s the primary approach which you could get an costly wanting house that’s like simply your fashion on a small finances however the time dedication is large. However for me, I really like that. I really like amassing stuff and I really like analyzing and studying in regards to the historical past and I feel it’s enjoyable. For me, it’s similar to a pastime and I feel amassing classic stuff is a superb pastime. 

Emma: Oh yeah. Positively. 

Elsie: Once we had Elizabeth from Low-cost Previous Homes on the podcast, I requested her, what’s one of the best ways to get an old-looking home should you even have a brand new home, like what will we do? She instructed me the primary factor is simply shopping for classic and I actually do. I’ve lived it now and I can similar to testify that’s the primary factor. I feel it’s so particular and it’s tremendous enjoyable. I really feel such an even bigger bond with my classic collections that I do with anything I personal. So I feel it’s actually particular. Ooh, we’re gonna speak about artwork. So when Emma first acquired right here, I had a desk stuffed with frames and I used to be like attempting to love put all my artwork, like I had simply gone and at last acquired all of the frames, similar to amassing prints for a few years,  however in a pile in my workplace. So I lastly acquired the frames and I used to be like, I’m gonna end this. So I figured that I ought to most likely like hurry up and cling them as a result of she has slightly child that’s crawling round. 

Emma: He positively like was knocking over a number of the like frames right here and there. So it’s like, oh, I’m sorry. That is what he does. He’s . He’s very . 

Elsie: However he helped me a lot as a result of I might’ve overthought it and like set them there after which considered it for per week and like, issues like that. However I simply hung all of them with out pondering hardly in any respect. 

Emma: Oscar’s gonna break it. I’m gonna get my command strips out and get this carried out.

Elsie: Yeah and it helped. So anyway, yeah, we wished to speak for a sec about artwork as a result of Emma was saying she preferred the way it was like a bizarre, it’s like bizarre artwork.

Emma: You might have a mixture as a result of you’ve what I might take into account like wonderful artwork stuff and perhaps it’s prints or perhaps it’s an unique, however like issues that artists have made. You then even have like kiddo artwork out of your women, you’ve household portraits, and then you definately even do like type of an eclectic model of household portraits. Some are such as you guys smiling on the digital camera, however then there’s a lot of like extra candid feeling issues that I do know you simply took together with your cellphone, like moments which can be taking place rapidly so it’s a must to like seize a photograph. It’s only a very large combine and I actually like that. You then’ll even put in bizarre issues, like a minimum of two locations in your own home, you’ve these little like fortune cookies body which can be such as you’ll be receiving a name quickly. Was that from whenever you acquired the decision about Goldie? When Goldie joined the household? 

Elsie: Sure. 

Emma: That’s what I assumed. Yeah. I used to be like, it’s both Goldie or Nova, however I can’t bear in mind the story now. You even have like tiny little gold body for the precise fortune cookie that I discovered. 

Elsie: Oh my gosh, you observed my fortune cookie body.

Emma: Oh, I instantly was like, I’ve gotta carry this up in some unspecified time in the future so she may put a hyperlink on the weblog as a result of I simply wish to purchase it. That’s the one approach I’ll bear in mind is that it’s like linked someplace that I can discover later after I bear in mind. It’s such a cute little body and I’ve a particular fortune cookie too. It’s like on my bulletin board in my workplace. And I used to be like, I might like to put it in a tiny gold body. 

Elsie: I’ve purchased nearly all my artwork from Etsy so it’s not that it’s like something fancy. I hold saying like, I wanna purchase a few originals. I feel that may be a very good subsequent step for me and I might like to help some painters and issues like that, however I haven’t carried out that but. Most every little thing that we’ve got is within the below $50 vary or a minimum of below 100 {dollars}. Etsy is the best artwork useful resource on the earth as a result of additionally an enormous quantity of the artwork that I’ve is the type that you simply purchase it as a obtain and it’s like $5 after which you possibly can print it in any measurement you need, which is so good as a result of generally I don’t know what measurement I need. 

Emma: You simply know you like the piece in your life. 

Elsie: Yeah. And I purchase a variety of thrift retailer frames, so it’s useful to have the ability to like resize issues your self. I actually like that. I’d positively favor it to love having to choose the dimensions on their web site and get it mailed to you. So, yeah my favourite Etsy artist is called Janet Hill. So she’s the one with like the attention patch one and just like the man that’s smoking the pipe. Her stuff could be very Wes Anderson. She additionally wrote a novel, so she has two youngsters’s books. I really like her a lot. She’s positively similar to such a cool painter. So I’ve a bunch of hers after which let me suppose a variety of historic prints, like, did you see the print in Goldie’s room? I feel it’s from San Francisco. It’s a historic print of like, just about like a mansion, nearly a citadel constructed on the sting of the seashore. It’s tremendous cool and bizarre. 

Emma: She confirmed me her Elsa poster, however we didn’t get to the, we didn’t get to that, I assume.

Elsie: Sure. Sure. She made a DIY Elsa. It’s three ft tall so we’ve got that. 

Emma: It’s acquired a variety of jewels on it. 

Elsie: Yeah, Elsa is life. So our daughters do a ton of artwork clearly so I simply attempt to like body as a lot as I can. In our kitchen, I simply acquired these frames from Amazon that flip up so you possibly can change the artwork anytime you need so I’m positively gonna hyperlink these as a result of I feel it’s good for the kitchen. Simply because such as you might be altering it continuously. For us, a minimum of it’s the place we’ve got the backpacks and we’re getting the varsity artwork out and all of that. So it’s similar to slap it within the body. You’ll be able to similar to, put one on high of one other, on high of one other in that body. And I feel that that’s actually cool as a result of it simply goes so quick and like the quantity of artwork that we’re accumulating is weird. 

Emma: Properly, I really like that it’s like put the child artwork in amongst all the remainder of the artwork appropriately. So I like that. I additionally suppose such as you positively have, like, your entire fridge is like coated with child artwork, which I feel appropriately, in fact, what else are fridges for. Additionally, I really feel like seeing them in frames similar to elevates it slightly bit which I actually love. So it’s like, I really like the fridge artwork and I feel everybody ought to try this. I’ve tons on mine, little footprint issues that Oscar’s carried out on there, however I feel placing it in body generally is like actually particular and type of elevates it. I don’t know. I prefer it rather a lot. 

Elsie: No, I feel you’re completely proper. It alerts that it’s like one thing you’re gonna hold perpetually, which I feel is so particular. In case you have children, you perceive, like I truly suppose it’s simpler in actual time to choose those to place up than to build up this big archive of stuff after which have the stress of displaying it in a while after they’re older. So yeah, for me it really works finest to simply type of like put it up. 

Emma: , too as a result of I walked in your workplace and Elsie’s desk is like coated along with her work after which her children work like, so it’s simply a lot like artwork all over the place, however instantly I noticed these tiny Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles that Nova had clearly made. And I instantly was like, these are implausible as a result of they’re like reduce out, 10 outta 10. And I used to be like, oh, Elsie, I noticed these Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and he or she was like, oh, I’m framing these. I nearly thought they had been misplaced so it’s like, , immediately whenever you’re like this one’s a framer, it’s going up immediately. 

Elsie: It’s true. You don’t even actually should suppose simply go together with your intestine.

Emma: You’ll know, the artwork tells you and that one stated cowabunga, put me in a body. Get it. Michaelangelo. 

Elsie: He’s a celebration dude. Yeah. Yeah. Oh my God, Nova’s blasting the Ninja Turtle’s theme tune on daily basis. So she’s a celebration dude. Our home could be very cool. Anyway, I’m attempting to suppose if there’s anything about artwork, however I’ll hyperlink, we’ve got a few actually thorough weblog posts the place it’s like artwork for each single room and people have a variety of artwork from my house in them. Yeah. Yeah. Amassing artwork. That’s a terrific submit. So I’ll make certain and hyperlink to all of that, however I feel that simply breaking the seal and simply hanging stuff up is the way in which to go.

Emma: You’ll be able to change it. 

Elsie: No, I’m like so relieved. I might’ve spent so lengthy, however I similar to put the artwork up and it’s up now and it’s carried out and in our hidden library, the entire partitions full and it simply feels, it’s not good and I may have overthought it extra and I may have been like my choosy self, however I feel it’s simply not value it with that type of factor. It’s higher to similar to do it and luxuriate in it. And I feel, yeah, simply let your eyes, get used to it after which simply be like, that’s ok.

Emma: Yeah. I feel too, taking the time to place up artwork in your own home, no matter you want, no matter it’s you need, or household, photographs, no matter, simply stuff in your partitions. I feel it’s simply very inviting as a result of like we visited some pals once we acquired to Nashville for this journey. They’re each like very inventive, like a musician and a graphic designer and so they’re similar to actually cool. I’d by no means been of their home earlier than and naturally, that they had such an fascinating curated, assortment of artwork on their partitions of like unique items and clearly items most likely from pals and various things like that. And I felt myself strolling round their home, taking a look at their artwork. I prefer to snoop homes and I’ll be like, simply actually sincere with folks about it like I’m gonna Snoop your own home proper now and folks don’t care often. I simply suppose like when you’ve artwork up, it’s such as you’re inviting folks to snoop. You’re like, I’ve displayed one thing. I would love you to come back into my eating room and have a look at the piece that I’ve placed on my wall or come on into our kitchen and see what I framed in right here or no matter. Like I simply really feel like one thing about it is extremely like, go forward and look, I’ve put this on show so that you can have a look at and it’s similar to a really inviting ambiance and so I dig it. I really feel extra comfy strolling round somebody’s home if they’ve a bunch of artwork up as a result of I really feel like I’m supposed to take a look at it and doubtlessly touch upon it and inform them how cool it’s or what piece I like or hear their story about the place they acquired it or no matter it’s like. So it’s a really enjoyable factor. 

Elsie: No, I utterly agree. I really like that. That’s such a pleasant approach to put it and it makes me wanna cling artwork even sooner sooner or later in order that’s like actually encouraging. So yeah, hopefully, everyone seems to be like gonna hammer some holes in some partitions now after listening to this. That makes me blissful to suppose.

Emma: All proper, properly, we even have a subject request that we acquired from Instagram. So the subject is deal with a friendship breakup in your thirties. 

Elsie: I assumed this one was a very good query. We get questions like this gorgeous steadily. I feel it’s a reasonably frequent expertise. 

Emma: Yeah. Friendship in your thirties and past I feel, I imply, usually friendship in maturity, I feel might be completely different than it was like in highschool and faculty the place you’re simply continuously assembly new folks and stuff like that. 

Elsie: I feel it’s very completely different. Okay. So for me, I used to be fascinated with this and I don’t essentially suppose I’ve had a friendship breakup in my thirties, so I couldn’t consider a breakup however I’ve had fairly just a few friendships the place we simply type of like misplaced contact. However for me, I satisfaction myself in having a excessive capability for being low upkeep the place like, I don’t have to speak to somebody for six months or a yr, however then we will catch up and like be synced again up actually rapidly. And I prefer to be that pal for different folks and I like pals like that for myself. Like so far as like the buddies that I fell away from slightly bit, like, I don’t know. I type of simply suppose it’s regular. I couldn’t say something unhealthy about it. It simply looks like life.

Emma: That’s type of what I feel as a result of even after I take into consideration often when folks say the time period breakup they’re speaking about romantic relationships. So even like fascinated with that, I’m like, it was all the time a very good factor as a result of it led to the following factor. Which isn’t to say like, so I don’t cherish previous issues. Like you probably have a friendship breakup, you’re most likely nonetheless gonna like cherish the time you had collectively and all of that however it’s possible you’ll simply be within the season for the following factor like perhaps somebody has moved or one thing of that nature. I don’t know. I don’t even actually suppose it’s completely essential to have any type of sit down discuss, however I assume there are occasions you do have to set boundaries and simply somebody isn’t getting it so it’s a must to be slightly extra direct, however I’ve by no means actually had that, both somebody doing it to me or me needing to do this. So I’ve by no means actually had, I assume, a friendship breakup both. I feel just like you, it’s like I’ve had some that, some relationships that it type of wax and wan or no matter or similar to, oh, we’re not that shut as a result of I observed they weren’t actually there for me throughout a tough time and all these different pals had been. You discover issues like that. I feel it’s simply type of like a, oh, properly, there you go. I don’t know. 

Elsie: Yeah, I assume my recommendation is to attempt to think about it as making area, similar to anything in life, making area for one thing, for what’s subsequent, and likewise to simply grow to be comfy with the concept some friendships are like finest in a season. I feel even together with your shut pals, you possibly can consider seasons the place you had been like, actually like shut and synced up, after which you possibly can consider different seasons the place you felt slightly bit distant like anybody would,. So I feel that it’s simply pure. It’s unhappy for certain particularly should you acquired your emotions harm. I may perceive that. 

Emma: No, that sucks. 

Elsie: Yeah, however I feel perhaps pondering of it as regular hopefully will assist as a result of like, I can’t even inform you what number of occasions we’ve gotten a query like this. I do suppose it’s as a result of so many individuals are experiencing it. For me on this time of my life, I’ve so many occasions the place I simply really feel responsible as a result of I really feel like I simply don’t have rather a lot to supply to different girls. On the finish of working and being a mother, I’m depleted. Excellent phrase. I feel having grace for people who find themselves depleted can be a very fantastic factor. Should you can muster it as a result of I might hate to suppose that there could possibly be individuals who suppose that I had a friendship breakup with them simply because I’m like going via a troublesome time. And that could possibly be too as a result of so many individuals are going via issues we don’t know on a regular basis. So, yeah, that’s a tragic one, however we’re sending you a hug for certain. Then after I say that, I truly actually imply it each single time. So I hope the hug is obtained. 

Emma: Oh, additionally one final thing, every time I make new pals or I’m hanging out with somebody I don’t know that properly and so they appear to speak actually poorly about their previous pals or somebody they’re not pals with anymore. Simply so , anybody listening, I all the time discover that and it instantly, it does slightly alarm in my head the place I’m like, don’t inform this individual something, don’t belief them. They’re gonna do the identical factor to you. 

Elsie: I even have had that have just lately additionally and it’s unhappy as a result of I don’t suppose that individuals know that that may be a purple flag.

Emma: Yeah. That’s why I wished to say, it’s similar to, you’re not a nasty individual for doing that. Generally you’re feeling like you’ll want to vent via one thing that was painful. I get that, however let me suggest remedy. It’s a terrific place to vent via issues that you’ll want to work via however should you’re simply out type of like, mainly sh*t speaking somebody, simply so if different folks round you appear to probably not belief you as a result of they could be feeling such as you’re gonna try this to them as a result of they’re seeing you do it to a different individual. 

Elsie: Properly, I might suppose they for certain will.

Emma: I might, should you discuss to me about somebody, I’ll be like, oh, I’m not gonna inform you something since you’re most likely gonna try this to me whenever you really feel prefer it

Favourite Fast Dinners

Elsie: So our final section is household meals you can also make quick. They tie proper collectively. 

Emma: Trigger what no one desires household meals that take perpetually. 

Elsie: Do you also have a household meal that you simply try this takes perpetually? 

Emma: Thanksgiving. 

Elsie: Okay. I used to be gonna say for me like pizza as a result of it’s a greater dedication as a result of it’s a must to prep the dough.

Emma: I acquired three issues that we do at house rather a lot, and I’ll preface by saying my son’s at an age the place he does eat the dinner that we eat, however he goes to mattress at seven and he doesn’t eat every little thing that we eat like he’s one. So primarily, he has a dinner and we’ve got a dinner. We’re not on the place but the place we type of all eat dinner collectively. We might be someday and that sounds truly actually cute and enjoyable. That’s simply probably not the season I’m in. So anyway, these are like three household meals that Trey and I make for simply us mainly after Oscar’s sleep and we wish it to be actually quick as a result of we’re actually hungry.

Elsie: That is smart. 

Emma: Okay. So the three issues are we make air-fried hen wings which I’ve positively talked about on this podcast earlier than. So I’m sorry, however I really like them and so they’re on the weblog. We eat them a minimum of as soon as per week, a minimum of typically extra. Okay. So yeah, hen wings. Then a variety of occasions we can have a cheeseboard dinner or charcuterie, I assume as a result of it’ll have meat too. It’s not essentially fancy, each from time to time we’ll, we’re like we’re gonna have an at house date time. We’re gonna get some fancy cheeses and fancy issues. Generally although, we’re like string cheeses on the board. Prefer it’s not that fancy, nevertheless it’s similar to meat and cheese and fruits and perhaps some greens, however principally simply these issues and it’s similar to actually quick. Possibly we pop popcorn. I don’t know, be happy to evaluate, no matter. So it’s that type of factor 

Elsie: if somebody’s judging you for popping popcorn, they’re within the mistaken place.

Emma: I imply, I’m sorry for having a cheeseboard for dinner. I’m simply kidding. 

Elsie: No, nobody can choose you. I need popcorn to be in my dinner all the time. Particularly like when we’ve got like household film evening, it kinda ruins your dinner and I find it irresistible.

Emma: I present up rather a lot at my guide membership and it’s like, everybody eats dinner, like as we get there after which go into speaking. A number of occasions I’m simply consuming a bag of popcorn. 

Elsie: You carry your individual popcorn? 

Emma: Yeah. Yeah. Properly, I carry my very own dinner.

Elsie: Does everybody carry their very own dinner?

Emma: Yeah. And lots of people have like these cute little glass Tupperware and it’s like a complete meal or they’ve some type of good takeout. I simply present up with this bag of popcorn and generally an apple. One time, I simply bummed an apple off somebody as a result of I used to be like, I want I had an apple and so they had been like, right here you go. So I don’t have my life collectively.

Elsie: Oh my gosh. That’s humorous. 

Emma: Yeah. Okay. That wasn’t my third one. That was a bonus. My third one is stir fry. Which I even have a weblog submit about construct a terrific stir fry and it has mainly a stir fry meals pyramid. Anyway, I’ll hyperlink it. It’ll make sense whenever you see it, however I really like stir fry as a result of it could actually come collectively actually quick and you may mainly use something it’s a must to like make it occur. In order that’s very nice and you may change the flavors and yeah, so we love stir fry. We make that a minimum of as soon as per week. 

Elsie: Good. Okay. I’ve mine. So I simply made a weblog submit for this one totchos which is tater tot nachos. So we had them at this restaurant in Nashville referred to as the Mockingbird and we love them. They’ve a brunch model and a dinner model so I assumed that may be enjoyable. It is a actually good one for my children as a result of they may help. It’s type of similar to placing issues on a sheet pan after which baking it. So it’s like one thing the place they may like assist unfold the stuff, pour the stuff. My four-year-old, just about her favourite meals is hash browns, just like the McDonald’s variety the little hash brown. The little patty variety that you simply get at Dealer Joe’s. So tater tots usually are not all that completely different from that. So, yeah, we love a tater tot. I put one pot pasta, however actually it’s similar to, I simply make pasta actually. I simply make pasta on a regular basis, butter noodles, and garlic. Additionally, I actually like, for a Dealer Joe’s dinner, the ravioli is like my primary Dealer Joe’s meals as a result of you possibly can take it straight from the freezer to a boiling water to your plate in like 10 minutes. It’s so quick and you may hold it perpetually, which I really like that, not as a lot stress to love use it rapidly.

Emma: It’s fascinating it’s in your freezer as a result of I feel often consider contemporary pasts, like within the fridge and also you would want to make use of it like that week someday. 

Elsie: I freeze them and you may nonetheless warmth it up inside a couple of minutes. 

Emma: Nice mother hack. 

Elsie: Then I put chili like chili is chili. There’s nothing higher than chili. What’s subsequent? I put frozen dumplings as a result of dumplings are every little thing to our household. So we just like the all the time pan it has just like the steamed baskets and you may double up the place there’s like two steamed baskets and it’s so cute. So you are able to do buns, like bow buns and pot stickers and generally we’ve got shumai. So I get most, all of my frozen stuff from Dealer Joe’s additionally. They’re like frozen Asian meals part, it’s like fairly good and I find it irresistible. It really works properly for me proper now as a result of I simply can’t go to a bunch of shops.

Emma: Similar. Yeah. 

Elsie: Winner for dinner. That’s my final one. Properly, I assume that that’s every little thing. Thanks a lot for listening. This week’s present notes are at abeautifulmess.com/podcast, and they are going to be very picture heavy. I’m ending my excursions and sharing the home with you guys this season. So thanks a lot for following alongside and we’ll be again subsequent week.

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