On Turning 43, With 12 Things You Might Not Know About Me

As a “non-birthday” birthday individual, I like to provide my staff the week off round September 1st, seemingly as a result of I would like it off myself and I’m an enneagram “7” in order that appears “enjoyable!” for everybody. This week we’re shifting into the farm, organizing 12 hours a day, and overwhelmed equally by “stuff” and gratefulness. I’m residing on a cloud, questioning if that is the simulation (all pretend), and realizing that you simply all are to thank for it. Thanks a lot. I really feel just like the luckiest 43-year-old on the planet. I’ve much more to say, however for the sake of at the moment, I assumed I’d let you know just a few stuff you won’t learn about me. Some frivolous. Some telling. Some deeply private. Some I’m happy with and a few not.

  1. Three years in the past, proper earlier than covid, I spent a 6 hour evening with Wiz Kalifa to see if we have been an excellent match for a “Snoop Canine/Martha Stewart” reboot present. The producers stored joking, everybody however me tremendous stoned, about how we have been a terrific match for TV as a result of I’d do “all of the work and speaking whereas he might be excessive and humorous”. I laughed, soaked up the reminiscence of this loopy Hollywood stint, after which dialed the “uh, f*ck no” name the subsequent day. He was tremendous candy, however not the fitting match 🙂
  2. I performed the grand piano at Nordstrom (Pioneer Sq., Portland, OR) throughout Christmas my junior and senior 12 months of highschool. I’d sneak in “The Man from Snowy River” theme track in between the extra acceptable carols as a result of it could make me cry and I appreciated to be emo. It was 1996 and I had numerous feelings. IYKYK. (cue that soundtrack for the remainder of this publish please).
  3. I’m frightened of sheep (and huge birds). My sister received one in a lamb scramble after I was 6. My brother informed me I may experience it and put me on its again sufficient instances for it to hate me and need me lifeless. I couldn’t go exterior for the summer season as a result of it could run onerous and ram me over, til it someday “left”.
  4. I assumed intercourse was crawling inside a person’s t-shirt and kissing so onerous till I used to be 13. Like, actually going up and into a person’s t-shirt, sharing the neck gap with each heads, when you kiss and kiss and kiss. I believe perhaps since I didn’t know what it was (raised Mormon) I simply created my very own fantasy, and this T-shirt transfer was each tremendous shut/snuggly and but nonetheless modest? As you’ll be able to think about my mates have a good time with that one and I used to be fairly shocked to be taught in Seventh-grade intercourse ed what was really concerned…
  5. I’ve an excellent sense of path. I believe that is from being a stylist for years the place it’s a must to journey the town from prime to backside and aspect to aspect to search out what you want. I knew New York higher than most new Yorkers and similar in LA. Portland, you’re subsequent. I at all times know which means is north and I take far an excessive amount of delight in it.
  6. I’ve been getting botox in my brow and my “11s” since I used to be 28 (I had very untimely wrinkles). I’m neither proud nor ashamed of it, however certain, I want I didn’t really feel the necessity to get it nor chase youth. However sure, I’m glad that it’s a extremely efficient possibility that may assist me look extra like how I really feel on the within. If solely society and tradition may, like, completely dismantle the parable of youthfulness and feminine magnificence, you understand? At this level, I do know only some those that don’t get it at my age, so I really feel extra snug admitting that I’ve (for 14 years! Solely took breaks whereas pregnant and breastfeeding). However no, we nonetheless don’t photoshop faces on this weblog.
  7. My first boyfriend, from the age of 14-19, was fairly darn verbally and emotionally abusive (dishonest/gaslighting/leaving on the perimeters of highways, and so on). He was 4 years older and your precise nightmare when you have a teenage daughter. I’ve written about it loads (together with why I stayed with him for thus lengthy) however by no means revealed something. Sometime I would. The truth that I met Brian two years later and now we have such a stable wholesome relationship is a loopy miracle, and a testomony to the kindness of the universe, the strengths of my childhood friendships (those I moved again to Portland to be with), and numerous resilience instilled by my mother and father. In the event you have been ever or are in a relationship with somebody who makes you are feeling like you’re a loopy piece of rubbish, know that you simply aren’t alone. I understand how onerous it may be to get out. You aren’t loopy. He’s dishonest. 🙂
  8. I’m extraordinarily quick at typing and have just about illegible penmanship. Like I’ve to work onerous to mannequin good writing for my youngsters as a result of my palms/fingers have been typing for 4 hours a day for thus lengthy that I can barely maintain a pen anymore. I write like a third grader.
  9. I’ve supported myself fully financially since I used to be 17 and paid for my very own faculty. Forcing full self-reliance is without doubt one of the finest presents my mother and father inadvertently gave me. It helped me construct a lot self-worth, confidence, and independence. I’m unsure who I used to be earlier than that, perhaps I used to be at all times unbiased and fearless when it got here to surviving large life modifications, however I do know that it helped give me the sense that I may do something.
  10. Paradoxically…I can’t, nevertheless, appear to “open a chunk of mail” and had a very horrible credit score rating till Brian began doing this job for us (one thing he’s additionally horrible at, however higher than myself). I nonetheless suppose there needs to be a highschool course the place you simply apply opening your mail, emails, and paying payments. A mixture of publicity remedy and hopefully creating some lasting habits?
  11. I made a school professor stop attributable to sexual misconduct. I wrote him a letter asking who he needed to inform the police – me or him (such an “Emily” transfer – assertive however making the opposite individual do the work), after which he moved the subsequent week (after writing me an excellent unusual apology card that I nonetheless have). Trying again I ought to have simply gone to the dean and made it so he may by no means train once more, however I didn’t. I suppose I hoped he would be taught his lesson and he was my favourite professor…
  12. I’ll eat something on a menu that has “English peas” or any kind of “slaw” on the aspect. It might be “Floor canine poop over a mattress of English peas and a aspect of slaw” and I’d be like “ooh, that sounds yummy”. Brian will get an actual kick out of this quirk.

Thanks for studying alongside – each this publish and the final 13 years for a few of you. Life is way from excellent, on and off the web, however I’m so blissful to be right here with you approaching center age and kinda loving it. Every little thing they are saying is true – your 40s actually are when life turns into extra crystalized when your selections could be made extra swiftly since you draw in your life experiences. In your 40s your priorities and values are driving the automobile of life. And when you nonetheless have to be awake, you’ll be able to calm down a bit extra realizing that you’ve this wealth of 40 years of life experiences, of being YOU, steering the wheel. You may lower by the noise sooner, with extra confidence, and you’ve got a way of an expanded timeline – releasing the perceived significance of each single day. Each event. Each “alternative”. It’s all stuff you’ll be able to’t actually be taught till it is advisable to, however perhaps a few of this resonates with a few of you.

Oh, I do love (and wish) an excellent self-indulgence weblog publish/journal entry every so often. Thanks for listening. At all times 🙂 xx

*Pictures by Kaitlin Inexperienced

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